Let’s be honest: Are you 100% confident in your skills and skin? Female bloggers and influencers tend to be more vocal about anxiety issues and other thoughts that keep them awake at night.
However, it is important to mention that these issues and many others can also affect men. Except for really few specific situations, the majority of issues that are typically associated with women can affect men just as equally violently. We owe it to Johnny Depp to shed light on domestic abuse against men. Regardless of the situation and whether they have been targeted by an abuser or struggle with anxiety, male victims are less likely to open up about the issues. Many men feel inadequate and ashamed about discussing their issues.
So, it is time to normalise our fears and accept that there are solutions and support available for men too.
You don’t know how to look after a baby
If you are a new father, here is something you can’t afford to forget: parenting is also new for your partner. You can find plenty of books to help you learn and prepare so you can feel more in control and reassured about the situation. There is this strange belief that women are more experienced at parenting because they have carried the foetus throughout pregnancy. A lot of men feel their parenting concerns make them incompetent and inept. Many describe the experience as stressful as if they expect their partners to discover their lack of parenting skills any second.
In reality, it is a new experience for both of you. It is completely okay to be unsure and not know what to do. But think of it this way: you will find your path with practice. You can learn how to change a nappy, feed a baby, and hold a baby when practising with your child. It can take a long time to establish a connection with your baby and be able to communicate. It’s okay to get it wrong too. Nobody expects you to be perfect from day one.
You are worried about your facial features
Contrary to common belief, appearance anxiety can affect both genders. You may not be entirely satisfied with your appearance. Perhaps, you’ve broken your nose in the past, and as a result, you feel self-confidence about its shape. Or your droopy eyelids may make you look sleepy. Our faces are part of our communication and interactions every day. So feeling self-conscious about your appearance can dramatically affect your self-esteem, your communication, and even your relationships. We are more familiar with women complaining about their appearances than men, so when a man feels ugly, most people choose to ignore it or laugh. You can consider seeking plastic surgery from specialist surgeons to tackle the areas that bother you. If you are unsure about the results that can be achieved, this is Chris Maloney’s before and after plastic surgery. It can be a life-changing experience for people who want to improve their looks.
Everybody struggles with worries from time to time. Regardless of your situation, there is nothing wrong with seeking the support you need and admitting your fears. The only way you can fight your fears is by acknowledging them.